So flexible...

When I was a kid, I was a gymnast. I could do the splits like nobody's business. Backbends and all sorts of fun, flexible maneuvers. 

I'm still flexible. I can touch my toes--from a standing position--and not fall over! But mostly, my flexibility these days is in adjusting to life's sudden changes.

Just a week ago, I was determined to get up early every morning and write from 0400 to 0600. These are the quiet hours in my house. Do you know what happened? My 19 month old decided waking up early was fun! My middle schooler couldn't get his homework done before 9pm. And there was so much going was impossible to get to bed early enough for me to wake up at that hour. The household went into reject mode over my new idea of ideal. Subconsciously, it was like they all had it out for me. [not that I blame them...not really. Okay, a little]

The thing is, I have a goal. The goal is to reach the goal!! The goal is not to get there a certain way. So, I change things up. Last night, I spent the last hour of my day, working on my shit. It worked. I wrote over 500 words, and took care of a few business items on my list.

I'm going to tiptoe through this change and hope that no one, in God's name, notices that I have started something new! Because heaven help them all if I get to my deadline in May and not have a manuscript that is ready to go to the editor!!! >:( Grrr.

Guest Blogger -- Cynthia Selwyn

A trapped-at-home mom of three, freelance fiction editor and romance writer, Cynthia Selwyn has been married to the same man for nearly twenty years. If there's anything she knows about relationships, it's that humor can keep the love alive (or at least on life-support).

Cynthia started writing at the age of six and has been writing since then. After many rejections, she finally earned a contract with The Wild Rose Press with Kissing Trick, (written as C.D. Yates) and is now writing exclusively for Breathless Press, where she hopes to earn enough money in royalties to support her coffee habit. Her goal with each book is to bring a smile to her readers' faces and love to their hearts, by writing a sexy story with a touch of magic.

She invites writers and readers to reach her at

Flying without a Deadline

Despite the fact that the world is reputed to be ending in December of this new year (what, again? It's been schedule to end for the past two years), consider setting goals anyway. Even if the world does end, at least you can say you accomplished something.

Here's my goal for 2012: Not to make goals. At least, not ones with a deadline.

What? How can you set a goal without a timeline? If my goal is to not set goals, then I will be able to say—as I float away in a burst of interstellar dust, or sail to heaven, or become one of the Enlightened—I did it! I accomplished something this year! (Complete with fist pump. Unless I'm dust. Then I'll just…well…dust.)

It's not that I don't think goals with deadlines are wonderful things. Some of us need them in order to function, and in order to write, especially. Like posts in a fence, they give us something to aim for as we travel this long road of ours. Just get to the next post, we think, and keep trudging despite disappointment, fatigue and all the other obstacles that appear in our path. And that's good. 

But I prefer the leap the fence, circle around, hide behind a rock kind of a strategy as I go. Flexible, like a guerrilla fighter (or better yet, a ninja!) I have to be ready to leap, tuck and roll as I make my way through each day/week/month…year. Yes, I have some kind of destination in mind, but the way I get there isn't the straight-and-narrow-eyes-on-the-prize kind of way. And, when I arrive at where I needed to be, I can quietly celebrate even if I didn't get there within a certain time frame.
That's part of the reason I don't like daily/ weekly/monthly goals. "I will write 20,000 words by the end of the month," for example. If I write "only" 19, 500 words by the end of the month, I won't be able to say, "I did it!"  But if I have the idea (which is different from a goal) that I need to write 20,000 words as soon as possible, hopefully sooner than later but later is okay if I need to do something else first, then I know that I'll be able to accomplish it. I won't have set myself up for failure but for success. A wishy-washy kind of success, true—but one that works with the rest of my rolling, leaping, flying, falling kind of life.

It's okay to be wishy-washy sometimes. We try to do everything just right all the time, with structure and timelines and deadlines, and then we get frustrated when things don't work out the way we planned.
Speaking of plans…I wonder how the prophets for this year's The World is Going to End prediction will feel on December 22nd, when everyone's still here and things are just the same as always. Frustrated…a little silly. Certainly, they'll feel like they've failed.

If only they used my method of goal setting. They'd tell you, "The World is going to end. Sometime." And they'd be right. Success!


A word on Maturity.
With spring upon us and garden planning in full force, my husband took his weekend to prepare the ground. Three trips to the fairgrounds in his truck blessed us with an over abundance--and much needed--load of fertilizer. Good old fashioned manure. Horses, name it. He got it and dumped it into our fertile patch of earth where last year we had the most wonderful success. Cucumbers! Tomatoes! Corn! Peppers!
About half way through Saturday, the distinct sound of wailing could be heard throughout the house. What was going on, I wondered?


Not manure, not poop. From the time my husband came home and through the unloading, it was poop this and poop that, here a poop, there a poop, everywhere a poop, poop. Believe me, dismay was in great evidence. My daughter was in tears. Disgusted! Mortified!

My explanation that it wasn't really poop anymore didn't help--nor did the odor help my argument! She was sure she would not be eating anything from the garden, which btw, is going to be absolutely FABULOUS! I can't wait for stuff to start growing. I'll post some pictures after I buy battaries for the camera. :)

One more quick note for goals:
This book is getting longer.
Still working on edits, revisions, and rewrites.
Also, finish reading Queen Bees and Wannabees<--liking it so far.

Monday Goals

I spent all day yesterday, critiquing. It was nice ot take a break from my own manuscript and enjoy some very AWESOME stories that my friends are writing. :D

This week will be more of the same.
1) continue pacing revisions
2) prepare for my parents to visit this coming weekend
...yes, this means clean the house! LOL
3) write two letters for two organizations who are giving away registration scholarships for the RWA National Conference. If I can get a scholarship, I'm going. My parents would give me a place to stay...and I could find babysitters for during the day. It would be a whirlwind but totally worth it!!!!!!!!
4) Enter a contest for a drawing for a chance to win free registration to the Conference....
LMAO. I know, I'm desperate. I can't help it. The entry is only like 10 dollars. The winning is way more than that!

That'll be my week.

Yesterday, my hubby came home and mentioned that Linda [a friend from work] gave him a book. I said, "Oh! Is it a romance?"
He replied, "In a way, yes--"
I questioned him with a disbelieving look.
He continued, "--if you love woodworking."

Goals & conversation two

I'm reading a really AWESOME book.
Fire and Ice by Julie Garwood. She's not an immediate buy for me, but I saw her book at the library and thought it sounded like fun. I WAS RIGHT! I'll talk more when I finish it...and I'll review it, too, on Sunday at The Girls on Books.


Goals for the week
1) continue pacing revisions-- i worked in a new chapter four and five and eight last week. so...that means the chapter thirteen I'm looking to rewrite is now sixteen. It's moving along and I love it. Now, I've--

[hold on, the bagel popped up]

--I've been inspired by Garwood [again, more on that later].


Conversation Two -- of conversations I wouldn't normally have in a week [just prior to the PBS airing of New Yankee Workshop]

"Hey hon." He hesitates, mutters to himself. "No. Nevermind--" He glances at the clock. "Actually, when this bagel pops up, will you butter it and bring it out to me?"

Spotting Dog Pictures, Images and Photos

SERIOUSLY? Hahahahahaha..... Of course I did it!!

Monday Goals

Okay, I've been slacking for a couple of weeks, as is obvious from my blogging...
It's been a study of PROCRASTINATION. So, I decided to set a goal for myself for this week.

1) Submit chapter THIRTEEN for decimation. Ack. Actually, the chapters not THAT bad, I'm just afraid for the pacing...and losing my audience.

2) Finish the rewrite for THIRTEEN and submit it for a beta read

As a matter of fact, I may submit both for a quick beta read before I ask for crits. :P So...

1) Finish rewrite for THIRTEEN
2) submit THIRTEENS
3) decide what to do with THIRTEEN

Hopefully, this won't take all week.
Beyond that, it's back to editing and revising and submitting chapters.

The Last Weekend of the Year

I haven't told my family yet, but I'm going to be writing every spare minute from now until the New Year in order to finish this story. The one I started on October 31st is at 50K+ words. I've got several key scenes to incorporate in hopes of adding another 10-15K. In a week! Oh God! I just realized how unlikely that is!!!


It's okay. I can do this...

Check back later for new news on my Work in Progress. *wink*


5,250 words by NY standards.

What that means is that i actually wrote about 4800 or so words. :)
I like the look of NY counting better...

Got a HUGE chunk of writing completed over the challenge weekend.
In the manor of Nano, it was a rough ride and i'm not sure now how likely completion of an entire manuscript will be in the fall. Eh, I'll still sign up...

Participating is something to look forward to.

Goals updated:
1) finish rewrites
2) polish revisions
3) submit for Rose City contest in August
4) start agent submissions in august...or before if possible

I'm headed for NY.
I know I've sat on the fence regarding my target publisher, but I really think NY is worth the effort. If I don't try, I'll never know.